Celebrate Your Revenge Body
Here we are, a day before the most over-hyped, argument-causing, over-sexed holiday of the year. There’s something about Valentine’s Day that resonates starting at a young age. I don’t know how you were brought up, but when I was a kid everyone brought Valentine’s Day cards or cupcakes to school. As a young child it was cute. As I got older it became a competition, or the opportunity for a secret crush to reveal themselves. Now that I’m an adult I’ve changed my views.
When I was single, I would hear friends agonize over whether to get the guy something on V-Day? If I was dating someone and didn’t see or hear from them on that day, was it an indication of how serious it was NOT? And now that I’m in a relationship, if he doesn’t want to celebrate our relationship with flowers or jewelry or dinner, does that mean we’re getting stale? All of these questions that circulate around this one day, for what? To drum up insecurity that forces you to either spend too much money or feel sorry for ourselves!
I don’t appreciate being told how to feel about my current relationship status, so instead, I like to concentrate on what I like to call my REVENGE BODY. Don’t fall into the stereotype of the chocolate eating, giggly girl that wets herself when she’s presented with something that sparkles. We are intelligent women, we make choices, and we can buy it ourselves. Rebelling against this holiday is much more fun.
For the weeks leading up to Valentine’s Day, I know you’ve worked your ass off. Don’t get depressed if you’re single or worried that your significant other isn’t going to acknowledge the day, take it back! Look hot, feel hot, you deserve to! Do whatever you want to celebrate Love! Who wants to be in a stuffy restaurant wedged between a couple that can barely stand one another and a couple sucking face in between courses of pasta?
Why don’t you utilize your Revenge Body. Wear whatever the hell you want to, but make sure it’s tight, because you work hard for what you’ve got. Then get some girls together and celebrate Gal-entine’s Day! It helps in so many ways. For instance, if you go out with your girls, you can split dishes, which will help you KEEP your Revenge Body. You don’t have to put pressure on eHarmony or your man or the couch to make you feel more loved! You depressurize the dreaded 14th of February. You take yourself back. And celebrate all the love in your life. Obviously this usually takes two days, so I like to celebrate Gal-entine’s Day on the 15th of February. It keeps me motivated if I do go out on V-Day not to go overboard. It also keeps me excited for the next day!
No matter what you end up doing, this is a time to reflect on all the love you’ve got. And if you need a reminder, your lady friends are always there for you. To cry with, to snack with, to workout with, and to dance with. If all of these things end up happening this week, just go with it. And don’t forget to love yourself.
To me February 14th is the day I get to check in with myself and take a close look at the ways I am loving myself and look at the ways I could step up the self love!
Here are 5 ways to make your Feb 14th your favorite day of the year!
1. Start the day with a bang!
This will set the tone for your Luv Day! Choose a workout that you LOVE and feel beautiful and strong doing. Perhaps a killer spin or dance class, or take a long run. Maybe it’s about going inside yourself and doing yoga at home with great music and your dog. Whatever you choose, start your day by moving and connecting with your body!
2. Fuel your fire!
The very first meal you put into your body is a GREAT opportunity to show your body some good lovin’. Take time with your first meal like you would for someone else or you would enjoy someone doing for YOU! Be prepared with whatever you would LOVE to eat that morning. Make a beautiful plate for yourself and have something special at your table, maybe the really good flowers you don’t allow yourself to buy each week. Eating on pretty dishes and looking at a lovely table is a tiny way we can love ourselves each day. Give yourself the gift of eating your favorite breakfast and looking at beautiful things you enjoy.
3. Pick the perfect outfit!
This is YOUR day. Wear whatever you want and whatever you feel beautiful in. Wear that dress you love but is a little too dressy, or wear your favorite necklace AND your favorite shoes – who cares if they don’t match! The outfit on THIS day is about what you feel beautiful in. As you get dressed notice the things YOU LOVE about your body and say it out loud. Celebrate your curves, your shape, and appreciate what you do have! Doing this will make you feel beautiful no matter what you choose to put on top!
4. Strut your stuff momma!
Go into your day celebrating your life, your health, your passion, and all that YOU bring into the world! Feel grateful for the things you have learned and are excited about to begin changing what is not serving you. Carry yourself in the world as the woman you know you are today. Forgive and let go of the old version of yourself. But first, thank her for bringing you here to this place of self acceptance and peace. See how tall you walk now girl!
5. Make a date!
End your day with as much attention and love as you started it. Leave work early, turn off the computer, silence your ringer and have the best at-home date ever with your favorite person. You. Order in or pick up your favorite meal. Enjoy every bite. Have dessert, every bite. Taste this amazing food and think about your day. What did you learn about yourself? What did you learn about how you much you love the woman you’ve become? Are you taking care of yourself like you would someone you love? Once you are done grab your favorite book and take a super hot bath. Let the heat sink into your skin and feel your strong body melt into the water. Take twenty-five long, slow breaths, and with every exhale think of how you can love yourself more each and every day. Once your bath is over make a date with yourself for next year. Same place! Same time!
